For years, Annie Idibia endured the pain of her husband’s infidelities—sticking by him despite his numerous affairs and children born outside their marriage.
But was she hoping for the impossible? TV personality and career coach Obiajulu Olabisi Ugboh believes so.
Speaking on TV Continental’s Your View, Ugboh made it clear that Annie should have known what she was getting into.
“I wouldn’t have called this a marriage because I can be in a relationship with you, and you are busy dropping children outside, and I am still loving you. I know craze.
“I wouldn’t have stayed, right? But she stayed through it all. She saw the red flags, the red sea—not even. 2Face is a walking red sea, not even a red flag,” she said.
Annie married 2Baba despite his history of fathering multiple children with other women. Ugboh argued that expecting him to suddenly change was unrealistic.
*”She saw the Red Sea before she decided to tie the knot with him. Was she expecting him to change overnight? We need to understand that men don’t change. They get worse with age. So the package you get from the beginning, you ask yourself, am I ready to deal with this?”
She also pointed out that many women in past generations stayed in troubled marriages, not because things improved, but because they chose to focus on themselves rather than trying to change their partners.
“We’ve had mothers who stayed. They know that this one is a mad person. I focus on self-love, I focus on my children, I focus on my business, and I mind my business. Do you have the capacity to stay? That’s the question you should be asking yourself.”
For Ugboh, what Annie displayed wasn’t love but an unhealthy attachment.
“But this is not love. It’s not love. It’s obsession. You cannot give what you do not have. You cannot love somebody from an empty place. You have to be full to be able to give true love. You have to have loved yourself.”
